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Reflections of a Retiring Formator

Fr. Frank Hoare and the formation community

Fr. Frank Hoare (far left) and the formation community

Feeling Like a Father

By Fr. Frank Hoare

It’s the closest I will ever get to feeling like a father! As I approach the end of seven years as a Columban formator in Suva, Fiji, I look back with affection to the students with whom I have lived. I take pride in their growth in maturity and their successes. They were mostly from Fiji but a few came from Kiribati. At one time we had seven students. Now only one senior student remains until he finishes here.

Betero, Jobepina and Fr. Frank
Betero, Jobepina and Fr. Frank

It was a thrill when a student came to insight about himself in personal accompaniment. It was great to see someone growing in confidence in presenting a vocation talk or in giving a homily. It was good to see how younger students learned from and were helped by older students. But I was also pleasantly surprised when a younger student challenged an older student on the basis of a Christian or Pacifican value.

Many students were introverted but an occasional extrovert livened meal conversations. Pacificans have a tradition of not chatting at meals. Drinking kava is the time for talking. Eating is a serious business to be given one’s full attention. But living and working in an international Society calls for some adaptations. COVID, too, brought stress and tested adaptability.

The students enjoyed their varied pastoral work – working with juvenile offenders, visiting the elderly, evaluating Gospel-sharing prayer groups, programs with youth, observing Sunday services of different Christian denominations, census taking of families in informal settlements, and sacramental instruction. They also enjoyed attending youth interfaith dialogue sessions. I encouraged them to constructively critique each other at reviews.

It was good to see how younger students learned from and were helped by older students.

Being in a formation community helped my spirituality. I experienced saying the divine office in common as more prayerful than alone. Being courageously challenged for my mistakes (not easy for Pacificans) gave me the opportunity to understand and apologize. It taught me humility, dependence on God’s help, and the need for spiritual direction.

One memorable incident comes to mind. We jointly organized a march for climate justice with third-level lay students on Saturday in the middle of COP 26 in November 2021. The police heard that a well-known youth activist would participate. They stopped the march and didn’t allow it to proceed to the public park where our Archbishop was waiting to speak. Instead, we went to the nearby seminary and held our rally there. We got much more television, print and social media exposure than if the march had been allowed.

I will miss the youthful enthusiasm of our seminarians in Fiji in the future. Vocation promotion will be that much harder. They will miss the opportunity to settle into the early discipline of formation in a Pacific setting. But it is a necessary adjustment. I am happy, however, to have had the experience of serving as a formator here in Fiji. So, empty nest syndrome now!

Columban Fr. Frank Hoare lives and works in Fiji. 

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